One of the biggest roles I have when it comes to working with a couple is simply being the mediator. It’s a hard thing to agree when you’re part of a pair and you both have every different styles. Moving in with your significant other is a big deal. It’s an exciting time and it should be fun. You already have so much to worry about, you don’t want to have to add the blending of design styles to your list of stresses. Here are some tips for moving in together and sharing your new home.
You both need to go through your major belongings and decide what you each want to keep, get rid of, or buy new. This will make it easier to go through and agree before hand.
Don’t be afraid to keep multiple pieces. Think about how you can move items around to new rooms and give them a new purpose. For example, if you have an extra arm-chair, put one in the living room and the other in a bedroom or guest room. Take the extra side tables and turn them into night stands.
Compromise and Be Open
This is going to be good practice for both of you. Try not to take over, but don’t be a push over either. You each want to contribute to your homes decor so that you each love the end result.
Think about what elements matter most to you, and be sure that both of you keep these type of pieces around in some way. It’s all about seeing what is important to your partner and showing that you can make it work.
Get Inspired Together
Even if one of you says they don’t care now, they will later. Trust me. Try to at least spend time at the beginning of the project getting inspired. Create a Pinterest Board and save all of the pins that you like the most. Even if only one of you happens to love it, save them all. In the end you will see the commonalities to at least get a better idea of what you each prefer. It will give you a much clearer direction.
Doing this together will only ensure that the end result will be about both of you. After all, this is what the project should be about.
It is never a good idea to rush through the design of your home. You will always be disappointed and it will cost you much more money than you’d planned.
Take it slow and do a room at a time. It makes for a much more enjoyable project. The more you plan it out and research the happier you will both end up being.
The key is to find the balance for both of you. A great example of this is combining feminine design with masculine. Include dark leather furniture, but then include softer textiles and more delicate lighting fixtures.
Color is a great way to seek balance. Choose the colors that you each adore, and find a way to include them within the space. If one of you prefers more neutral colors, but the other wants something bold, you can still make this happen. Make the overall pallet neutral, but then bring in those stronger colors with pillows, art, and accessories.
Just have fun dammit. This is an exciting thing you’re doing, so make the process one that you will fondly remember.
Written by Rhiannon Gillis. Rhiannon is a Los Angeles decorator and also writes for the blog Rhiannon’s Interiors.