Are you a mom? If so, then you probably understand the struggle to maintain a space of our own inside our very own house. As with everything, our things become their things, and their things, become our things. Okay that’s great, but how badly do you wish you just had some special room that was just for you? I firmly believe that we may need this space more than anyone else in the house.
I mean the kids, well they practically take over and have made each and every room in the house their own personal play room. Am I right? Plus there is always talk about having a man cave, or a room for the man to “get away from it all”. Don’t get me wrong. I know how hard dads work and they want to have some personal space too. However it seems to be easier for dads to “zone out” just about anywhere. Me? I must have a closed-door, a lock, and I can’t make any sounds as to not alert them to my presence. It’s ridiculous. I believe there needs to be a space just for mom. It only makes us happier and more willing to give our all to our families.
So you may be wondering what does this mean? What does a space for mom really require? Oh I’ll tell you.
Door and Lock
If our kids can visually see us, then they refuse to lease us alone. They must be physically incapable of gaining access to us, or seeing what we’re doing. Otherwise we get, “Mom! What are you doing?” or “Can you play Candy Land with me 85 times?” or, “Can you stare at me while I draw another picture of a dog?”. I mean sure these are all highly entertaining activities, but I don’t want to do it all of the time.
So make sure your space has a door that locks. It seems drastically to literally lock yourself away, I know. However if there is no lock, then they’re going to come in as often as they need to before you give up and leave the room. Don’t do that. They will quickly discover that mom is in there doing a bunch of boring things by herself, and will give up all together.
Styled and Organized
This just means that you should have a room that looks styled and feels really good to be in. What’s the first thing that will prevent you from not using it? Chaos. Don’t let this be a room for unwanted junk. Once this space begins to fill up with junk, you’re going to stop using it.
Only allow the things that are necessary for you within this space. The more you put in here the more it will force you to have to clean when it gets cluttered. If there is ever a room in the house where clutter is prohibited, it’s here.
Keeping a styled and organized area will give you a sense of calm that will make you desire this room more than any other. It will be your ultimate tranquility zone.
Color and Lighting
Think about what colors you find yourself drawn to. You don’t have to bring in any color you don’t want to. Your significant other and your children don’t have to like it. In fact it’s probably better if they don’t. So just do it for yourself.
Remember to keep it for you, but make it as tranquil as you can. For some people, tranquil requires darker lighting with multiple candles lit. For others tranquil means brighter and comfortable. Or it just means gray walls with soothing colors. It’s different for everyone so do what works for you.
Unsure which colors to go with? Go out and start shopping for pillows. When you find the pillow that contains all of your favorite colors combined, use this as your inspiration to finish the room.
Whether it’s to read, craft, or have a place to watch your favorite shows in private, make this room the place to do it. Really think about what you wish you could do every day if you just had 20 minutes all to yourself. more would be nice, but lets be realistic. Whatever your activity is, then that is what you should make happen in your space.
Remember to incorporate more than one task if you can. However focus on the most important and simply make this your ultimate function within this space. It’ll push you to use it so much more when you have it set up for at least one main activity.
As you can see in the image here, if you’re looking for a place to curl up and read, this spot is ideal. All you need is a great chair, good lighting, and a comfortable throw to cuddle up with. It really is as easy as it sounds.
Make this Space Work
If you have an extra room in your home where you’re capable of making it all yours, that is wonderful. However if you just want to create a space in your bedroom or guest room, then do this. Get bedding that is relaxing to lay on, or an arm-chair that you can place in the corner.
It’s all about allowing for a place for you to retreat to. You really need to start to get away more often. Since you can’t take that monthly solo vacation, this is surprisingly affective.
Written by Rhiannon Gillis. Rhiannon is a Los Angeles decorator and also writes for the blog Rhiannon’s Interiors.